A slave's little instruction book

A slave's little instruction book Well here it is something straight and to the point to help submissives learn and grow. No long posts here just little tidbits of advice to impress and show off for your master.


This was originaly a training tool I made and after almost loosing it to a crash I decided to share the whole thing here. Hopefully this will grow larger and broader than my own mind. I have currently 115 ideas.

I am not taking any credit for 99% of what is here. I only wish to share what I have found and come up with.
If you think I missed something submit it. If you have anything to add to the list submit it. I have been working on this for over a year and it only took me a couple days to get this far.

Reblogged from subboigurl

femtotalbottom:

Are bottoms “inferior”?

I often opt not to use the term “inferior” to describe bottoms because of the confusion it can cause. For many people, inferiority-superiority as a concept implies an distinction between bad and good; for example, we might describe something cheap as “inferior” or “of inferior quality.”

Bottoms are not inferior to Tops in this way. There is nothing inherently “bad,” “ugly,” “ignoble,” “cheap,” “worth-less,” “evil,” “messed up,” or “wrong” about being a bottom: a bottom is not a lower-quality version of a Man, as a bottom is not a Man in the first place!

However, inferior can also mean, “lower in rank, status, or position.” In this sense, bottoms are most definitely inferior to Tops. Bottoms lack both the natural right to rule, dominate, and penetrate, as well as the psycho-sexual faculties to do so. While male, bottoms are not true Men, in that they lack the power to rule that is the essence of full Manhood. A real Man is an Emperor within His own sphere. A bottom is not, and can never be.

When compared to real Men, bottoms are less excellent and Vir-tuous, but that doesn’t mean a bottom can’t be good within his proper place in the order of things. Rather than competing with real Men or pretending to be Their equal, a bottom achieves the goodness and full-self-actualization proper to him by accepting his inferior status and devoting himself to serving Those superior to him.

Men and bottoms are ontologically different, but this difference is not between “good” and “bad,” but rather between “higher” and “lower.” Within humanity, there is a real, ontological sexual hierarchy (order, taxis) based on degree of Masculinity (Manliness, Vir-tue). Homo-sexually oriented Men (Tops) are the most Masculine Men, occupying the highest position within this hierarchy. When we say a bottom is inferior, or “less of a man,” what we mean is that a bottom is less masculine than a real Man, and is naturally sub-ordinate to real Men, being lower in rank.

Within the context of a given relationship, the Top occupies the higher position: He is the Head, the Leader, the Guide, the Man. A bottom is His suitable, corresponding, complementary partner. The one who “fits” Him. This is because a bottom is a male (satisfying a Top’s natural need to associate with males) who is also deeply sexually feminine (naturally capable of truly receiving the Top’s penetration and submitting to Him fully, and not with a ‘wink,’ so to speak). The bottom is sub-ordinate to the Top.

The Superiority of the Man in a relationship, and the inferiority of the bottom, is symbolized and enacted through penetrative sex acts. The Top exercises and manifests His Masculine Headship over His bottom by entering his body. This reveals in a tangible way what is already invisibly present between a Man and bottom even when they are not engaged in sex: the Man’s Masculinity, activity, strength, and dominance, and the bottom’s femininity, passivity, total vulnerability, and submission. The tangibility is important: through His cock, the Man brings the bottom into a physical awareness of His rule over him, of His Masculine Excellence, of His Superiority. The bottom can literally feel his Man inside him, can feel His power, and also His love, inside his body. And the bottom can also feel his own submission and femininity, as he feels the cock of the Top stretch and open him, exploring his inner physicality.

Penetration demonstrates in an undeniable way the power dynamic between a Man and a bottom. The Man remains “closed,” holding His power within, and exerting it outward. His physical integrity remains intact throughout the entire sex act, and indeed at all times, nothing from outside breaking the seal and passing into Him. The bottom is open: his physical integrity is perforated, he is both psychologically and physically vulnerable to and accepting of the Top. The bottom, rather than exerting outward moving force, actively draws the Top in. The bottom willingly allows the Top to break through the physical borders of his body and pass into them, to enter inside his physicality. he gives up his power to the Top. he allows the Other to enter his own self, the quintessentially feminine sexual movement.

Let's talk about online dating.

Reblogged from submissivedreamer

submissivedreamer:

So, as I’ve mentioned, I’ve been more active on Fetlife and OKCupid lately! Because reasons. And what I’m realizing, again, is that people in general are really, really bad at approaching others on dating websites. I don’t know if it’s just the men that I attract on them, or if this is applicable…

Let your Dom care for you

Reblogged from subbieblackgrl

subbieblackgrl:

There is so much talk about abusive Doms and those who are negligent and cold, but not nearly enough talk about the Doms who are warm, understanding and attentive.

As a strong, independent person, one of the hardest things I’ve had to learn as a submissive is allowing someone to care for me. In…

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picmanbdsm:

Inside those things which you say….I just cannot do that…. set them aside in your mind. When he tells you to do it…obey…be totally owned…totally used. You will find that breaking these barriers feel good and help you on many levels. 

Reblogged from picmanbdsm

picmanbdsm:

Inside those things which you say….I just cannot do that…. set them aside in your mind. When he tells you to do it…obey…be totally owned…totally used. You will find that breaking these barriers feel good and help you on many levels. 

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Reblogged from haliaxon

fetishweekly:

Shibari Tutorial: Consequence Rope Gag

♥ Always practice cautious kink! Have your sheers ready in case of emergency and watch extremities for circulation issues ♥

"How can your husband deal with his alpha Vs his sub side. I am extremely alpha at work and vanilla life , but have had cuckold fantasies since I was a teen, and my alpha side "hates" my sub side."

Asked by Anonymous

hersubmissivehusband:

femdomhotwifecuckoldinterracial:

I think my husband’s alpha side probably hates his submissive side also. There’s a lot of conflict there for him. That’s why when he’s in submissive mode, deep in sub-space, he can suck a cock for me, and somewhat enjoy it… but then the next day he hates himself for it.

I know this feeling exactly! Hell, I had it this morning after my wife fucked my ass for the first time in… a long time. And the whole time her cock was in my ass, she was rubbing my dicklette in little circles (mimicking female masturbation) until I came in the most un-manly way I can think of.

The whole time it was erotic and hot and naughty and wrong (in that fun way). But the MOMENT I started to cum it because disgusting and sickening and humiliating (in that non-erotic way) and waves of self-loathing washed over me.

So before I EVEN FINISHED EJACULATING my alpha side was ready to kick the shit out of my sub side. Why do some guys do this? Well, that’s a topic for a different post. Sufficient to say, it happens to a lot of people when playing with high energy cultural taboos.

The take home here is that if you are going to be the slut/sissy/bottom you have to be ‘man’ enough to push your way through it. 

yourbadgrrl:

wintry-mix:

Getting ready for our first OWL (Our Whole Lives) comprehensive sex ed class with the middle school youth group. Best ministry I do all year!


Middle school youth group?! Ministry? Goddam! So could have used this kind of education. Too bad it will never happen in the Church….

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yourbadgrrl:

wintry-mix:

Getting ready for our first OWL (Our Whole Lives) comprehensive sex ed class with the middle school youth group. Best ministry I do all year!

Middle school youth group?! Ministry? Goddam! So could have used this kind of education. Too bad it will never happen in the Church….

Submissive goals

Reblogged from subbieblackgrl

subbieblackgrl:

In my mind, I have an idea about the kind of submissive I aspire to be. Much like my post about serving being a lot like employment , I think that it helps to have something like “career goals” for your service. Sure this might sound a little cheesy, but hear me out:

There are things that most…

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